Am I with the right partner?

Posted by Mademoiselle Sophie , Sunday, February 24, 2013 12:02 PM

Actually this article is from an FB page. but i happened to read this article from here  and am compelled to share it over here. Might be useful for future reference. hehe XD. And might as well applied it in any other kinds of relationship!


 

During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here’s the answer…

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because:
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO

p/s: just recovering from common cold. Alhamdulillah :)

Kebesaran-Mu - st12

Posted by Mademoiselle Sophie , Saturday, February 16, 2013 11:18 PM


Kau tempatku mengadu hati
Pemberi segala hidup
Dunia dan seisinya milik-Mu
Mencintai-Mu sejati

Ku manusia yang penuh dosa
Berharap ampunan-Mu
Lihat di langit kesempurnaan hadir-Mu
Kau cinta pertama dalam hidup

ALLAHUAKBAR Maha Besar
Memuja-Mu begitu indah
Selalu Kau berikan semua
Kebesaran-Mu Tuhan

 
 

how to love a woman

Posted by Mademoiselle Sophie 4:45 AM


You may not be her first, her last, or her only.
She loved before she may love again.
But if she loves you now, what else matters? 
She's not perfect - you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together
but if she can make you laugh,
cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, 
hold onto her and give her the most you can.
She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart.
So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there.


BOB MARLEY.