Am I with the right partner?
Posted by Mademoiselle Sophie , Sunday, February 24, 2013 12:02 PM
Actually this article is from an FB page. but i happened to read this article from here and am compelled to share it over here. Might be useful for future reference. hehe XD. And might as well applied it in any other kinds of relationship!
During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next
to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all
seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question
because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied
the author.
Here’s the answer…
Every relationship has a cycle… In the
beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their
calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love
wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous
experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called
“falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture
the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing
nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But
after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love
fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at
all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s
idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of
this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic
difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much
duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I
with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love
you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.
This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look
outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes
and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work,
a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the
answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies
within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else.
You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same
situation a few years later.
Because:
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You
have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and
energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT
TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with
or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the
universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If
you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It
is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who
you refuse to let GO.
p/s: just recovering from common cold. Alhamdulillah :)
